Musings

I'm just copying my father

Home

25 for Twenty Five

First Published: 2023 August 23

Draft 3: 27 November 23

Last year I tried to do twenty four things between my twenty fourth and twenty fifth birthday. It was a transition away from other, less healthy traditions. I had hoped that setting that goal would have two major effects on my life. First, I had hoped that it would make me more intentional about what I spend my time on. After all, even though I do not know what the number is, I do know that I only have a finite amount of time on this earth. While that has never meant1 maximizing the utility of every single fleeting moment, I do find that I prefer to look back on my time when I have been more intentional with it, rather than less.

The second goal, obviously, was to encourage me to try new things. I don’t know how successful, if at all, that goal was. After all, as I have been told many times by far too many people, I am generally a person who is open to trying new things. That’s certainly something I strive to be, at least. That being said, I was at least more aware of things I had done for the first time, at least in my2 memory.

So, since I enjoyed the challenge, I decided that I’d try it again. n for n is now being rebranded as my attempt to do more new things each passing calendar year. Since there are an infinite number of activities I can try, that should remain doable, especially if I start lowering my standards.

This post also feels like a good place to reflect on the first quarter century of my life. There are arguments to be made that nothing before I have concrete memory should really count, which I have mixed feelings about, and so will ignore. I’ve gotten a Master’s3 Degree, graduated a college with a double major, and earned my Eagle Scout. Those seem like sort of the big three in terms of explicit and externally validated life accomplishments, but there are far more things that I’ve done. I have received five of seven sacraments, which I’m beyond grateful for. I’ve also grown a lot, both physically and mentally. Most importantly, while I don’t think that any age4 of previous me would have foreseen me being where I am right now, I also don’t think any of the past mes would be unhappy with it. I am grateful for the time I have had and look forward to the time to come. My fingers are crossed that I will get more than another quarter century on this earth, and I hope to use it well. Maudlin musing aside, there are some things that I want to do in this year. I think that updates for this post will be coming in two forms: things that I have done, and things that I want to do. There were things I wanted to do last year that I kept forgetting about, and so never did.5 With that in mind: Things that I want to do before my quarter century year is gone:

Huh, I hadn’t realized some of the things I wanted to do. I don’t know if I’ve ever articulated, to myself, at least, a desire to record an album. Apparently all those people who say that giving yourself space is good are true. Anyways, I have also done new things since turning twenty five!

Welp, it’s been about four months, and I’ve gotten through about eight events, so I’m more or less at pace. I’m slightly behind, but I don’t know if that’s really an issue. After all, at worst I can just do more next summer in the days before my next birthday.

Draft 2: 13 September 2023

Whoops! The first draft of this posting didn’t have proper formatting.18 So, in addition to adding things, I’m going to have the second draft actually be, you know, formatted. Also, I’m going to delete some of the text, since it’s really rambly.

last year I tried to do twenty four things between my twenty fourth and twenty fifth birthday. I had hoped that setting that goal would have two major effects on my life. First, I had hoped that it would make me more intentional about what I spend my time on. After all, even though I do not know what the number is, I do know that I only have a finite amount of time on this earth. While that has never meant19 maximizing the utility of every single fleeting moment, I do find that I prefer to look back on my time when I have been more intentional with it, rather than less.

The second goal, obviously, was to encourage me to try new things. I don’t know how successful, if at all, that goal was. After all, as I have been told many times by far too many people, I am generally a person who is open to trying new things. That’s certainly something I strive to be, at least. That being said, I was at least more aware of things I had done for the first time, at least in my20 memory.

So, since I enjoyed the challenge, I decided that I’d try it again. n for n is now being rebranded as my attempt to do more new things each passing calendar year. Since there are an infinite number of activities I can try, that should remain doable, especially if I start lowering my standards.

This post also feels like a good place to reflect on the first quarter century of my life. There are arguments to be made that nothing before I have concrete memory should really count, which I have mixed feelings about, and so will ignore. I’ve gotten a Master’s21 Degree, graduated a college with a double major, and earned my Eagle Scout. Those seem like sort of the big three in terms of explicit and externally validated life accomplishments, but there are far more things that I’ve done. I have received five of seven sacraments, which I’m beyond grateful for. I’ve also grown a lot, both physically and mentally. Most importantly, while I don’t think that any age22 of previous me would have foreseen me being where I am right now, I also don’t think any of the past mes would be unhappy with it. I am grateful for the time I have had and look forward to the time to come. My fingers are crossed that I will get more than another quarter century on this earth, and I hope to use it well. Maudlin musing aside, there are some things that I want to do in this year. I think that updates for this post will be coming in two forms: things that I have done, and things that I want to do. There were things I wanted to do last year that I kept forgetting about, and so never did.23 With that in mind: Things that I want to do before my quarter century year is gone:

Huh, I hadn’t realized some of the things I wanted to do. I don’t know if I’ve ever articulated, to myself, at least, a desire to record an album. Apparently all those people who say that giving yourself space is good are true. Anyways, I have also done new things since turning twenty five!

That puts me at a full fifth of the needed new activities, which is nice, especially since I haven’t gone through a full new month. Anyways, I hope to keep both of these lists updated, and hopefully I’ll be able to start moving things from the want to do list to the have done list. I have an awesome set of amazing friends, and I’m beyond grateful that they also do many fantastic things. Relevant to this post, one friend wants to do a good number of the things I want to do as well, which will be nice.

Since this posting is happening the same day that I’m also writing a full blog post, I’ll do my daily reflection there instead.

Draft 1

last year I tried to do twenty four things between my twenty fourth and twenty fifth birthday. I had hoped that setting that goal would have two major effects on my life. First, I had hoped that it would make me more intentional about what I spend my time on. After all, even though I do not know what the number is, I do know that I only have a finite amount of time on this earth. While that has never meant31 maximizing the utility of every single fleeting moment, I do find that I prefer to look back on my time when I have been more intentional with it, rather than less. ?The second goal, obviously, was to encourage me to try new things. I don’t know how successful, if at all, that goal was. After all, as I have been told many times by far too many people, I am generally a person who is open to trying new things. That’s certainly something I strive to be, at least. That being said, I was at least more aware of things I had done for the first time, at least in my32 memory. ?So, since I enjoyed the challenge, I decided that I’d try it again. n for n is now being rebranded as my attempt to do more new things each passing calendar year. Since there are an infinite number of activities I can try, that should remain doable, especially if I start lowering my standards. ?This post also feels like a good place to reflect on the first quarter century of my life. There are arguments to be made that nothing before I have concrete memory should really count, which I have mixed feelings about, and so will ignore. I’ve gotten a Master’s33 Degree, graduated a college with a double major, and earned my Eagle Scout. Those seem like sort of the big three in terms of explicit and externally validated life accomplishments, but there are far more things that I’ve done. I have received five of seven sacraments, which I’m beyond grateful for. ? I’ve also grown a lot, both physically and mentally. Most importantly, while I don’t think that any age34 of previous me would have foreseen me being where I am right now, I also don’t think any of the past mes would be unhappy with it. I am grateful for the time I have had and look forward to the time to come. My fingers are crossed that I will get more than another quarter century on this earth, and I hope to use it well. ? Maudlin musing aside, there are some things that I want to do in this year. I think that updates for this post will be coming in two forms: things that I have done, and things that I want to do. There were things I wanted to do last year that I kept forgetting about, and so never did.35 With that in mind: ? Things that I want to do before my quarter century year is gone:?

Huh, I hadn’t realized some of the things I wanted to do. I don’t know if I’ve ever articulated, to myself, at least, a desire to record an album. Apparently all those people who say that giving yourself space is good are true. Anyways, I have also done new things since turning twenty five! ?

? Anyways, I hope to keep both of these lists updated, and hopefully I’ll be able to start moving things from the want to do list to the have done list. I have an awesome set of amazing friends, and I’m beyond grateful that they also do many fantastic things. Relevant to this post, one friend wants to do a good number of the things I want to do as well, which will be nice. ? Since this is going to be a constantly updated draft, it feels a little strange to do my daily reflection in it, but c’est la vie.41 ?

? Oh fun! I posted this a year and a day later!


  1. for me at least↩︎

  2. admittedly spotty↩︎

  3. I can never remember if that’s a possessive or not↩︎

  4. excluding the past year or so of my life↩︎

  5. chief among them: taking an improv class↩︎

  6. which may not be different? I’m only half remembering words anymore↩︎

  7. since I’m sure some of the pieces I put out will be instrumental↩︎

  8. and won my section no less!↩︎

  9. it was absolutely beautiful↩︎

  10. added 11/27↩︎

  11. well, participated in one. I think I’ve technically attended one as a spectator before↩︎

  12. added 11/27↩︎

  13. added 11/27↩︎

  14. added 11/27. Hopefully by the end of the year I’ll just be able to say I learned↩︎

  15. creative. I’m only counting blog post, Jeb and NaNo I think↩︎

  16. 7219 currently. May be higher later. Added 11/27↩︎

  17. added 11/27↩︎

  18. I had just switched to a new editor that apparently uses non UTF-8 line breaks. Don’t ask me why↩︎

  19. for me at least↩︎

  20. admittedly spotty↩︎

  21. I can never remember if that’s a possessive or not↩︎

  22. excluding the past year or so of my life↩︎

  23. chief among them: taking an improv class↩︎

  24. which may not be different? I’m only half remembering words anymore↩︎

  25. since I’m sure some of the pieces I put out will be instrumental↩︎

  26. hmm back into may be wrong.↩︎

  27. and won my section no less!↩︎

  28. it was absolutely beautiful↩︎

  29. added 13 September, I sat around for twenty or so minutes until the judge came in and told us that they had settled.↩︎

  30. ok so like it was hosted by a friend and there were no stakes, but I’m still counting it, may be willing to remove if more exciting things happen to me. Added 13 September↩︎

  31. for me at least↩︎

  32. admittedly spotty↩︎

  33. I can never remember if that’s a possessive or not↩︎

  34. excluding the past year or so of my life↩︎

  35. chief among them: taking an improv class↩︎

  36. which may not be different? I’m only half remembering words anymore↩︎

  37. since I’m sure some of the pieces I put out will be instrumental↩︎

  38. hmm back into may be wrong.↩︎

  39. and won my section no less!↩︎

  40. it was absolutely beautiful↩︎

  41. the only french phrase my family uses.↩︎

  42. for all that this musing felt a whole lot like a journal↩︎